or another uncomfortable feeling， or talk about what theyre actually feeling. Making a joke or telling a partner not to feel emotional about a topic is a common mechanism for the emotionally unavailable to try to control the discussion， so they dont have to process， an emotionally unavailable person tends to use humor to deflect， Have you noticed that your partner seems to brush everything off with a joke or sarcastic comment? Rather than expressing anger， fear， sadness， disappointment，。
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